Women’s hormones fluctuate so much and so often a woman can find herself in emotional turmoil. Have you ever felt you have multiple personalities that read like this, all within the span of a month?:
Go with the Flow Florence
I’m getting Tense Tina
and Sexy Suzie?
We are made to experience a variety of emotions. Sometimes our personalities play a part. Sometimes our upbringing or environment contribute to our modus operandi or attitude. All of these elements thrown in with hormonal fluctuations can leave a woman wondering who she really is.
Sometimes we serve ourselves well to feel the emotions instead of ignoring them. Feeling them, crying, journaling our thoughts can bring us back to centre. What is important during emotional times is to know what to believe and what to discard. It is equally important to keep hope in place, so that we can wade through the turmoil.
We are made up of our personality and our hormones, but we are also made up of our thoughts, goals and dreams. Of course, if there are underlying unresolved issues, we are well served to dive into them with the help of a counsellor.
Many women feel using a counsellor indicates they “have a problem” when all they really need in their life is someone to talk to, someone to help them regain perspective, someone with whom to make goals with. Life Coaching is different than counselling. It is a relatively new process to help meet the need women have for support without having to go through therapy.
You don’t have to have a problem to use a life coach. Actually life coaching is for healthy women who need to gain some clarity or find encouragement.
If you chose not to use a life coach, there are a few truths you can adopt to help you with your multiple moods:
- Know that you are not alone in how you are feeling.
- Know that what you are feeling can work for your good. Getting in touch with what is important in life helps us reach out to others and move forward as we look for ways to fill the gaps.
- Try writing your thoughts in a journal or via computer. Look back on them over the course of time to see any patterns, half-truths or for encouragement.
- Remember happy, positive or uplifting times and hold on to them.
- Make plans for what you think is missing in your life and set goals to fill the voids.
- Take risks. For instance, if you keep thinking of a club or business you’d like to be part of, start one!
- Hang out with positive people. Don’t spend your life alone in front of a television. Don’t isolate. Don’t phone the friend who brings you down. Find someone who is a good role model and find out how they keep going.
- Read positive and uplifting materials. Keep learning and growing.
- Find ways to help people, the earth, animals or charities.
- Get busy and active. Get out of the house and do yard work, go for brisk walks, help the elderly, jog, spend a day at the mall, go mini-golfing. A change of environment and activity level may just be what you need to recharge your batteries.
Don’t despair. If you do try a few of these self-help ideas and are still not happy with the results, visit your medical doctor to discuss your situation. You may benefit from other professional help.